How to work out your living arrangements

When a live-in relationship ends, you’ll need to figure out your options for where to live. So learn what your rights are, and where you can get help if you need it.

It’ll depend on your individual circumstances, and it’s good to know that there’s help out there should you need it.

Work our your housing rights

Whether you rent or own your home, and whether you’re married or not, Citizens Advice can help you work out your housing rights. The website also answers common questions about what happens to the family home when a relationship breaks down.

Get help to move or rent

If you’re worried about your ability to afford to move or rent, Shelter can give you advice on getting help to pay a deposit or approaching your council for help with housing. For example, if you want to rent privately but you don't have the money for a deposit, there may be local rent deposit schemes, rent guarantee or bond schemes you can access. You can also use our grants checker [link] to see if you qualify for a grant. Or, in some cases, we may be able to help through our grant provision.

TIP: Citizens Advice can help you work out your housing rights whether you rent or own your home together.

Consider mediation

If you have children together, but can’t agree on who they should live with, consider mediation. Mediation is a non-judgemental environment that gives you the space and time to think about what’s important to you both. A mediator can help you reach decisions about child access, maintenance and living arrangements that work for your whole family, and have the best interests of your children at heart. 

Get support to parent apart

If you’re struggling with becoming a lone parent, the charity Gingerbread can offer you advice and practical support. And relationship charity Relate has some useful content on helping you successfully parent apart.

TIP: If you’re worried about your ability to afford to move or rent, Shelter can give you advice on getting help to pay a deposit.